If you’re a parent of a secondary schooler in Singapore, you’ve likely felt the shift in the air over the last few years. The Ministry of Education (MOE) has been busy: mid-year exams are gone, the PSLE scoring system has changed, and there’s a massive push toward “Subject-Based Banding.”
The goal? To end the “education arms race” and bring the joy of learning back to our kids.
But if the goal is to lower stress, why does it feel like the treadmill is just moving faster? Why are we still staying up late worrying about DSA applications or whether our child needs one more niche enrichment class?
A recent commentary by researchers from the Institute of Policy Studies (IPS) sheds some light on this, and it’s a perspective every parent needs to hear.
1. It’s Not Just “Kiasu-ism”—It’s “Insurance”
We often label ourselves or others as “kiasu parents” with a bit of a laugh and a sigh. But the researchers argue that our behavior isn’t actually about being competitive or status-conscious.
Instead, we treat education like insurance.
In a system that has traditionally felt “high stakes,” we use tuition, brand-name schools, and CCAs as a hedge against future risk. We want to protect our children from “irreversible loss”—the fear that one wrong move at age 12 or 16 will close doors forever. When we chase a “top” school, we aren’t just chasing a badge; we’re chasing the perceived security of better networks and more resources.
2. The Identity Trap: Being “Singaporean”
A recent IPS-CNA study found something fascinating: when asked what traits define a Singaporean, the top answers weren’t “Singlish” or “food.” They were “valuing education” and “being kiasu.”
This means that for many of us, the “arms race” is baked into our identity. It’s how we define a “responsible parent.” If the system removes exams, our “responsible parent” script simply tells us to find a new way to give our child an edge—whether that’s moving house to be near a specific school or doubling down on specialized coaching.
3. Why “Every School is a Good School” is a Hard Sell
The commentary acknowledges a hard truth: as long as there are visible differences in the “attractiveness” of schools (in terms of autonomy, special programs, or alumni networks), parents will continue to compete for them.
It’s a rational response. If we believe certain schools offer a “smoother” path, we will naturally try to get our kids onto that path. To truly lower the temperature, the researchers argue we need to:
- Lower the cost of being “wrong” early: We need to know—and see—that there are credible second chances and that “early sorting” doesn’t define a life.
- Narrow the gap: It’s not enough to hide school rankings; we need to ensure that the opportunities (like high-end enrichment and CCAs) are balanced across all schools.
4. Rewriting the Script
The most important takeaway for us as parents is how we define our role. The authors suggest we need to move away from a “responsible parent” script that is about gaming the system for a narrow advantage.
Instead, the focus should shift to:
- Building steady foundations: Focusing on core learning rather than “niche” coaching.
- Faith in lifelong learning: Trusting that the journey is long and that our kids can thrive even if they don’t take the “express” route every single time.
- Leveraging technology: Using tools like AI to provide high-quality support at home, reducing the need for expensive, high-pressure tuition.
The Bottom Line
We don’t have to stop valuing education—it’s part of who we are. But we can choose to redirect that energy.
The next time you feel the urge to join the “arms race,” ask yourself: Am I buying insurance out of fear, or am I building a foundation out of love?
What do you think? Has the removal of mid-year exams lowered your stress, or has the competition just moved elsewhere?
